Wo-Men

Wo-Men

Because i am a woman i get comments from random guys or even girls telling me to cover up, i know people who claimed that if you go out in a miniskirt you’re basically asking for it, i have friends who say that belittling woman is not so bad since it’s all just a joke.

It sometimes scares me how i have to change myself in order to go outside or to go to the beach, when i take a metro in Paris at 9 in the evening and i’m scared, i’m scared because I’m all alone and there are a group of guys shouting things at me like ‘hey baby let’s have some fun tonight’,

And if i tell this to my friends they will ask me what i was wearing… How can what i wear be relevant to how i’m being treated sometimes?

Why should it matter if i wear high heels? or if i wear a low cut top?, if i say no, the answer is no.

I salute the woman that go out there and walk into the metro wearing whatever they feel like, especially since summer in Paris can be very humid and hot, while i appreciate most of my friends helping me when i’m alone, i’m also sad that this is what it came to these days. When i did a photoshoot 4 years ago with a friend photographer the idea was to do a super uber sexy photoshoot, just to show my femaleness and be me, i got a shower of comments after that from mostly females i must say, saying i was took sexy, saying that i should take the photos down from Instagram or Facebook, saying that i should cover up more (note, i was in a bikini on most of the photos, there was literally nothing you could see on the photos that was explicit) and i still got these sort of comments,… I like to be sexy when i can, i like wearing agent provocateur lingerie and wear clothes that could show a little skin, this does not mean at all that it’s ok to call me things, or to shout things at me when you’re drunk, this does not mean that i want you. This does not mean that i’m only thinking about one thing. This means, that i’m a woman and i do be or have whatever i want.

I love to see a young girl go out and grab the world by the lapels. Life’s a bitch. You’ve got to go out and kick ass.

— Maya Angelou

 

The model diet

The model diet

I have to admit, i have never been a big fan of any diet, my size is usually just between 36 and 38 and if i try a diet it will always keep me between those two sizes no matter how hard i try…

In the modelling industry i was constantly on a diet and tried to get into my best shape, i would spend hours in the gym, go days on green tea and blueberries. It was pretty difficult to maintain healthy and keep in shape at the same time. I tried almost every diet on the market, i did the protein diet, i did the Beyonce juice diet, i did weight watchers all of that sort of worked but i never actually felt good while being on any of them.

That is until i’ve found a diet that is suitable for my lifestyle and what i want to get out of it,

I call it the model diet, it is a mix of tips and tricks that i’ve learned over the years from individual dieticians.

Morning:

I do this every morning, and it did miracles to my body, squeeze half a lemon into a glass of hot water and drink it

After that i will pour some wheatgrass powder into some water and drink it as well,

After that i drink a protein shake with soya milk, could be almond milk too, however i feel like soya milk digest better in my body.

After that i’ll drink 2 or 3 cups of white tea, (white tea and not green tea because my body does not react too well on green tea, it’s ok with one cup but if i drink 2 or 3 i’ll get nausea), this is because green tea is a lot heavier on the stomach, while white tea has almost the same health benefits but it is a lot more easier to digest. However white tea or black tea is not easy to find, here in Europe only specialised tea stores will have it, or really big supermarkets, if i do not find find white tea, i’ll switch to black tea, and if that is unavailable as well i would take green tea with jasmine.

After that i take one cup of hot skimmed milk, i’ll add four spoons (size of a soup spoon) to it, and 2 small coffee spoons of chia seeds.

Lunchtime:

I usually eat either a piece of bread with some light cheese on it, or i’ll prepare myself a salad, or a soup, or a bowl of granola with some yoghurt. (keep in mind that, salad, like iceberg salad will make your stomach look floated, yoghurt will also have the same effect). If you want to eat something during lunchtime but you wanna keep a flat stomach i’d suggest you prepare some spinach with a chicken filet, or a soup of green vegetables. (If you want to lose weight even quicker you should not eat any bread during a period of time, if you love bread too much it’s best to east just one or 2 slices of it during either breakfast or lunchtime, since the carbs in the bread will have the time to be digested and absorbed well by the body).

Dinnertime:

I aways try to eat a hot plate during dinner, i usually go for some cooked spinach, or kale,  or leek, or broccoli, (beware that broccoli is a rough vegetable and it will most your stomach look a little bloated temporarily), or Brussels spouts (will however also make your stomach look a little bloated afterwards temp.). I’ll ad some quinoa to it, with again a little bit go chia seeds and either chicken, or a turkey fillet, or a white fish, or salmon fillet.

Things to bear in mind:

Eat 2 snacks in between breakfast and lunch, and in between lunch and dinnertime.

Snacks can either be 2 kiwis, or some pineapple or any other fruit, or a bowl of strawberries, or a banana or a bowl or blueberries or raspberries or an egg can be boiled or as an omelet.

With this diet you will need to drink 2 litres of water each day.

Another tip would be to walk or jog a little, or go to the fitness and work out for like and hour, hour and a half, this will help your diet a lot and will help your body to reshape to the size that you want.

And most importantly, every body is different, some people will lose weight quickly others will have to fight more to get rid of them, keep loving yourself even if you’re not the size that you want at the moment, know that your body is amazing, and if we fuel it with all good stuff the results of this diet can be pretty amazing.

Note, this may not be in your case but with my friends and i we noticed that our skin looked flawless whilst doing this, and that we slept better at night as well.

Note, do not drink green tea after 3 in the afternoon, since most tea’s have caffeine in it, it will keep you awake at night, instead you can drink caffeine free green tea.

 

 

Being an adult,

Being an adult,

I always wanted to be an adult, i always dreamed of being a grown up and how life would be when i’m in that stage of my life.

And now that i am an actual adult i fnd myself often pretty lost in this world, 

I keep on doubting myself, am i sure that i want to be a photographer all my life? Am i sure that that is all i want? Do i want more? Or do i want less? Would i ever actually move to Australia or will i keep living in  my favourite city in the world, Paris. 

Will i have children? Will i ever get married? Will i get my own company (what I always dream of having), truth be told is that i honestly don’t know the answer to any of these questions yet. 

The only thing i do know is that i am happy now and i wanna stay happy always. I wanna be loved and i wanna travel, i want to see every corner of the world, and i do want children one day but not before i have done my share or traveling around the world. Or before i made a name for myself working in the fashion industry. 

I want to know what it feels like to wake up on a sunday morning in the Italian Tuscany countryside, or in a small village on the coastside of Portugal. I want to know what it feels like to wake up in San Franscico or in Los Angeles. I already know what it feels like to wake up in Australia and i have never regretted making that decision, because when i look back at what i have done in my life in the last 5 years, i do not regret any part of it, or any decision that i’ve made, sure some weren’t the cleverest of ideas, and brought me to a place where i’ve learned a lot about myself. But regretting taking that decision? Never. 

And so is life. It’s incredibly short, shorter than most people would think, it does not give you the answers right away but the answers will unfold while you’re living. 

Do not be trapped by what people say you should do with your life and only do what you feel like doing, be good to others, love people a lot. 

Go to Paris or go to New York, start working on a new dream, or try an old one. 

Do exactly what you think you want to do. 

The world is yours. 

The good life 

The good life 

Of what does a good life consists? 

Some seem to think its when you have a lot of money, or that BMW you so desperately wanted with a big house to park it infront.

But is that really all that it takes to live a good life? To have a good life? 

I feel as though i will have to disagree with that statement, i fear as though if you are rich and that is all you have you are emotionally poor, i believe that happiness starts with how you feel everyday when you wake up, is it a good feeling? Or do you feel as though you’re living your life in a treadmill, keep on going to keep a roof over head.

But let me tell you… living life like that is not happiness nor is it living the good life…

Happiness, the good life is when you count your blessings more than you count your burdens, when you appreciate what has been given to you in this life so far, when you show gratitude for what you already have and keep a positive attitude about the future. 

A good life to me consists in being able to make love to someone you think is the most beautiful thing in the world, and loving them each and every day.

A good life consists out of not being afraid to ask for what you want in this life but don’t be afraid to go after that what it is you want either. As a saying goes in Belgium ‘You’ve already got a no you might as well go for a yes as while you’re at it’.

A good life consists in being surrounded by the people you love, forgive them if they make mistakes, love them anyway. 

A good life consists in eating good food, try cooking, if you hate it, let someone else cook for you, go to a nice restaurant and indulge yourself in the absolutely magical flavours the world has to offer.

A good life consists for me in laughing often, and in caring for others.

A good life consists to me in doing something you love. Too many people ignore their dreams and do not chase them out of fear of failing at it. Do not be afraid… ever in your life. My dad always says to me ‘Even if you’re afraid it will happen anyway, so don’t be afraid’. 

I once read a quote and i cannot remember who said it but it goes something like this: ‘You can fail at what you don’t want, so you might as well take a chance and try something you do want’. 

A good life to me consists in having fun, having fun on a daily basis

A good life consist in enjoying a nice glass of wine or prosecco or champagne, spoil yourself often. You deserve it.

A good life consists in loving others, dance often, laugh always and never be too afraid to do something. 

A good life consists in reading books, any sort of books wheter it be comic books or novels or poetry books. 

The good life most of all consists in loving hard and appreciate the little things in life and do not take anything that is given to you for granted. 

“One ought, every day at least, to hear a little song, read a good poem, see a fine picture, and, if it were possible, to speak a few reasonable words”.

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

“Find your focus by seeking all that is good in your life”.

Lorii Myers, Make It Happen. 

Self acceptance

Self acceptance

He moves he’s fingers over my chest, feels my scars, feels my big scars and my small scars, he moves he’s hand slowly from my stomach to my chest area following the trail of my scar… He never asked me what happened, but instead he plants small and tiny kisses on top of the scar.

Everybody is born with a small leak between the left and right chamber of the heart which sort of closes by itself when you’re a baby, i was born with the leak as well but unlike everybody else’s heart, the leak in my heart didn’t close… It stayed open… It made my heart pump blood from one side to the other which sounds normal but in my case the oxygen blood and the non oxygen blood made my heart pump a lot to keep up with the pace, which made my body sort of switch off various functions, i couldn’t cry, i couldn’t eat, after 2 weeks doctors quickly noticed i lost weight instead of gaining it, and i lost it as a quick pace, after 5 weeks my mom went to a specialist to check out what was wrong with me, he didn’t say what it was, but instead told my mom she had to go immediately with me to a specialised clinic nearby Brussels.

The next day my parents meet a professor, 2 specialists and a child cardiologist, the verdict was in, i had a ventricular septal defect, and the only solution to fix me was to undergo surgery, open heart surgery, but i was too weak to do the operation in the near future so they kept me on the intensive care for 2 months.

There i was, a super tiny baby with lots of wires connected from all over. After 3 months they were ready to do the surgery, since my chances on surviving were still very slim the doctor only wanted to do the surgery with he’s own personalised team, 7 specialist from all over Belgium and one plastic surgeon and lots of nurses, were busy fixing me in what ended as a 9 hour long operation.

When i was a kid i knew i was different from all the other kids in my class, my whole class knew what had happened, but sometimes a bully from outside our class would make fun of me because of my scar, i’ve had people stare at it, or pointing at it, or randomly pointing and saying ‘what happened there?’.

When working as a model some photographers would photoshop away the scars, others would keep it, some would ask the make up artist to retouch it a bit, but to be honest i rather have it out there in the open, i don’t wanna hide my scar, i’m not embarrassed for it, today my scar signifies that i’m stronger than i could ever think i am, that i have my own special tattoo, one that not too many people have, i’ve learned over the years to accept myself the way i am, and i would never photoshop the scar. Because it’s such a big part of me. It made me who i am today.

So to all the people out there feeling embarrassed for a scar, or scar tissue, don’t be, it’s not worth it, a scar is simply there to tell you, that you are a very strong person that has gone through something very significant, but in the end you made it and that’s what counts… So love yourself as you are right here, right now.

“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.”
Jalaluddin Rumi

 

Dating an Italian

Dating an Italian

Dating an Italian, i expected it not to change so much from dating French men, but boy was i wrong…

Italians are way more sensitive then French men, or any other nationality i’ve ever dated, they’re very passionate about where they come from, and it is very normal to be invited to some Spaghetti or Pizza on the first date, and it is very normal that they will prepare it for you, italians express their love for you in the kitchen, they will try to blow your mind with their amazing cooking skills, and truth be told, their cooking skills are far better than mine will ever be.

Wine or Prosecco is a very important part in dating, they would find it very weird if you dislike wine or sparkling wine for that matter, so is coffee, coffee is not just coffee…No coffee is an entire experience into making the perfect cup.

The first time i asked my Italian if i could have a spoon to eat my spaghetti with, he looked at me like i just told him Santa Claus does not exist, he had the weirdest look on he’s face and asked me ‘I do have a spoon but what will you do with it?, i said to eat the spaghetti’, Him: You cannot do that, that is just wrong, that is ruining the spaghetti, i tried giving the Italian way a chance, and after many countless attempts i finally made it, i finally discovered how to eat spaghetti with one hand, and turning it elegantly with one hand too.

The 2nd time he invited me over for some spaghetti i was sort of confused, i felt like this was just for one thing only, and i had not even think about the fact that he might wanna cook for me again, so i picked a fight, and we made up after some more spaghetti.

Italians are very sensitive and emotional, like my Italian friend who hugs me all the time, and gives me these sweet small kisses in my neck and on my cheek. Italians are like an open book, within the first date you’ll know everything about them. They’re fast to speak about their feelings. I feel like what most people say about Italians is true… All the stereotypes from Italians being great lovers is true as well.

When i first went to Italy, i’ve noticed that it’s true that most Italians drive Fiat’s and eat ice cream, and pizza and spaghetti all day, and they laugh about it as well.

I took my car and drove from Milan, to lake Como, and from Lake Como i went to Portofino.

 

By the time i got to Portofino my cell phone wasn’t working anymore and i got lost, it was 2 in the morning and i did not knew where to go at all, and i had been walking around a lot before that so i was really thirsty, for some reason i could not find any service station, i had a little fiat Abarth 500 and i was cruising thru the mountain side of northern Italy. It sounds very idilic and it sure was but at that time i really needed to find a highway somewhere that could get me back to Milan 🙂

After 30 minutes i found a little village, it was really dark and i didn’t saw anybody outside anymore, after another 15 minutes into the village i’ve found an ice ream bar, which was literally full with locals, i got 2 scoops of vanilla ice cream, 3 glasses of Prosecco & and the nearest exit to get onto the highway. It resulted in being one of the most amazing nights of my life.

 

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Why do woman become emotionally attached?

Why do woman become emotionally attached?

I think this question is one that has been asked many times, but I’m still curious though, would it be easier for a guy to sleep with someone and never talk to them again? is it because they’re less emotional or are they emotional but just don’t admit it?

Are woman too emotional? or are we too quick to like someone?

So many questions, so little answers…

When i went to ask my friends they all said pretty much the same thing, It depends of whom, sometimes i’ve had one night stands that turned into a relationship, other times it just wasn’t there, that click or that vibe that would connect us to build a relationship.

But how come the percentage of woman is significantly higher when it comes to emotionally getting attached to once they’ve slept with someone?

According to science there is a hormone in both a male and female’s body, which is called oxytocin also known as the cuddle hormone, it makes you become emotionally attached to someone, and woman have a significantly higher percentage of it than most men do. Of course there are some exceptions, such as men that have a lot of emotions and would get emotionally attached to a woman after they’ve slept with them, but in general i’ve noticed most men are not like that. But then again, maybe the man i’ve slept with are emotional but just not with me, i believe that it all depends on how much you feel a click with someone as well, if you do not click and end up in bed together, chances are it might still not click after you’re slept together, but if you do feel a click, it can increase the good feeling even more afterwards.